If you’re feeling stuck and out of options, I believe there’s always another way. Always. Pretty bold, huh? No, I don’t have the peer reviewed academic studies to support my claim, but in my experience, there’s always another way – usually several – a lot more often than we think. And the likelihood of missing those other ways goes up exponentially when we try to figure out everything by ourselves, take only the same point of view, and try to get un-stuck with the same tools that got us stuck in the first place. So, yeah, I’m sticking with there’s always another way. Support, Viewpoint, Tools You can find those other ways more easily and more consistently when you get support, shift your view, and use new tools to get where you want to go. Here’s an example of wayfinding another way from my seasonal, part time side hustle. As kids. . . .Read more . . .
Big breakthroughs are exciting and feel fantastic, but making them stick takes turning turning an aha into a habit because lasting change takes practice. A couple of weeks ago, I wrote about decluttering a drawer in my bedroom and rediscovering these old aromatherapy beads and how, after using them one time, I woke up the next morning able to breathe through both nostrils for the first time in, well, ever. It dawned on me this weekend that I haven’t taken a decongestant in days, something that was as routine as brushing my teeth three short weeks ago. My sinuses aren’t totally clear 24/7, but they’re consistently clearer than, well, ever. I didn’t get this seemingly miraculous result from using the beads once. I’ve used them every single day since I freed them from that drawer. Multiple times most days. I got positive, short-term results that first night because they work for. . . .Read more . . .
One of the most reliable ways I know to boost your ability to be well, do good and enjoy the ride is to amp up a coaching tool called “bag it, barter it, or better it” by mixing it with your VIA signature strengths. When you’re facing a task or situation that drains your energy, you can choose to: bag it by not doing it or entering the situation, barter it by trading tasks or activities with someone who actually gets energized by the stuff that sucks the life out of you, or better it by doing something to make the task or situation feel better. Adding your VIA signature strengths with intention and creativity is like adding renewable super fuel to the “better it” approach. I’ve waxed poetic about the Values in Action Survey of Character Strengths here and here and here. Short version: The VIA is a tool that. . . .Read more . . .
When you navigate your next, you need a compass and a map. If you were going to hike a new trail, would you bring a compass or a map? You can only choose one and there’s no cell service, but the distance and terrain are within your strength and skill levels. If you can follow the sun or stars, skip the compass. If it’s an out and back hike and you’re good at noticing landmarks, skip the map. You can navigate the physical world with either a compass or a map, or neither. To navigate new chapters in our lives, it takes both. Wrong Map What’s your five-year plan? Inside my head: that’s way too long, life’s too uncertain and changes too fast, that’s not what you want to hear, I need this job, I have to say something that will make hire me, QUICK! Before I could form the words,. . . .Read more . . .
Decluttering can help you do more than get rid of stuff. Done right, it can help you rediscover the internal qualities to help you thrive, as long as you use your rediscovered brilliance instead of letting it sit on a shelf. When I woke up this morning, I realized I was breathing easily and silently for the first time in, oh, I don’t know, months, years, the lifetime since an otolaryngologist described my septum as “the most deviated I’ve seen in my 40-year career.” I savored the scent of eucalyptus, peppermint and lemongrass – through both nostrils – recalling how I rediscovered the aromatherapy beads during a recent decluttering spree. A couple of weeks ago. In a bottle from a store that closed shortly after superstorm Sandy. In 2012. I finally took it from the shelf and set some next to my pillow. Yesterday. My chronic sinus issues were largely resolved. Overnight. If. . . .Read more . . .