What I really want is to find my purpose. That sentence, uttered by a potential client, used to be my personal kryptonite. I could help them for sure, in spite of a story in my head telling me I wasn’t very good at it. Working with – and helping – enough purpose seekers finally helped me to see that story for the lie that it was. Mr. Rogers helped, too. Missing the Trolley I never watched Mister Rogers Neighborhood as a kid. I don’t have kids, and the middle schoolers I taught were too cool to admit that they watched when they were little. Fred Rogers spoke at commencement at my alma mater – the year before I graduated – so I missed him there, too. But I know enough about him to predict this with confidence: Fred Rogers didn’t find his purpose by sitting around and thinking about it.. . . .Read more . . .
My mailing list, that oft-considered holy grail of people who do at least part of their business online – so, basically, just about every business – on this first day in the GDPR universe, has a whopping 25 subscribers. One of which is me, thanks to mild OCD that makes me distrust that the emails really went through unless I see one as a subscriber. So, 24. There’s a time when that would have given me apoplexy. Or at least led to an online rant accompanied by a not small degree of stress eating. There was a small rant, in fact, a few days ago, when I sat down to sort through the labyrinth of legalese and advice that would – hopefully – make the online part of my business satisfactory to the European Union by clearly declaring what I’ve done since the beginning: treat the information of my website. . . .Read more . . .
If you’re feeling stuck and out of options, I believe there’s always another way. Always. Pretty bold, huh? No, I don’t have the peer reviewed academic studies to support my claim, but in my experience, there’s always another way – usually several – a lot more often than we think. And the likelihood of missing those other ways goes up exponentially when we try to figure out everything by ourselves, take only the same point of view, and try to get un-stuck with the same tools that got us stuck in the first place. So, yeah, I’m sticking with there’s always another way. Support, Viewpoint, Tools You can find those other ways more easily and more consistently when you get support, shift your view, and use new tools to get where you want to go. Here’s an example of wayfinding another way from my seasonal, part time side hustle. As kids. . . .Read more . . .
Big breakthroughs are exciting and feel fantastic, but making them stick takes turning turning an aha into a habit because lasting change takes practice. A couple of weeks ago, I wrote about decluttering a drawer in my bedroom and rediscovering these old aromatherapy beads and how, after using them one time, I woke up the next morning able to breathe through both nostrils for the first time in, well, ever. It dawned on me this weekend that I haven’t taken a decongestant in days, something that was as routine as brushing my teeth three short weeks ago. My sinuses aren’t totally clear 24/7, but they’re consistently clearer than, well, ever. I didn’t get this seemingly miraculous result from using the beads once. I’ve used them every single day since I freed them from that drawer. Multiple times most days. I got positive, short-term results that first night because they work for. . . .Read more . . .
One of the most reliable ways I know to boost your ability to be well, do good and enjoy the ride is to amp up a coaching tool called “bag it, barter it, or better it” by mixing it with your VIA signature strengths. When you’re facing a task or situation that drains your energy, you can choose to: bag it by not doing it or entering the situation, barter it by trading tasks or activities with someone who actually gets energized by the stuff that sucks the life out of you, or better it by doing something to make the task or situation feel better. Adding your VIA signature strengths with intention and creativity is like adding renewable super fuel to the “better it” approach. I’ve waxed poetic about the Values in Action Survey of Character Strengths here and here and here. Short version: The VIA is a tool that. . . .Read more . . .